After you lose someone you tend to not realize you’re not having good days, until you suddenly have a really good one that takes you by surprise.
Sometimes the really good day is followed by guilt, anger, or sadness that you could be having a good day and it’s only been X amount of time.
Stopping those thoughts of guilt or sadness is easier said than done, so an important thing to do is to check in with yourself.
Here are 3 questions that can help start moving you away from the guilt and let you be okay with the good:
1) Are you doing anything illegal or that’s harming you/anyone in any way? (If the answer is no, then enjoy the moment.)
2) Are you comfortable with what you’re doing or is it giving you anxiety?
3) Would your loved one want you to be happy or have a good time?
That third question is one that I’ve heard a million times over, but it still holds a lot of truth. You need to know that no matter where your loved one is or the kind of relationship you guys had, he or she would not want anything but happiness for you. Whether happiness means riding on a carousel in Central Park or learning how to bake.
Can you relate to a good day making you feel kind of sad?