Sharing that you feel sad or alone after someone dies is probably one of the hardest things to do. That being said, it’s also probably one of the best things you could do.
By sharing and letting someone else into your sadness you’re giving yourself a break and allowing for some of that weight to life off your shoulders.
But because it is harder, here are 5 ways we found were the easier options to telling someone that you’re feeling sad after someone you love dies:
- Write a letter — the world needs more love letters, but it also needs more letters sharing your feelings and not so great moments. The act of writing the letter can help with letting go of a lot of feelings and actually sending the letter helps let someone else in.
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Text someone – Let your iPhone make it less awkward to share that you’re sad or that you really miss your loved one.
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Tell them over a meal – Chipotle makes everything easier to do. Telling someone over Starbucks? Forget it, you’re basically invincible.
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Have a mediator – Is the person you’re having a hard time opening up to someone in your family? A surviving parent, a sibling or another close family member? Try telling one of your close friends to be there when you approach the conversation, so that if you chicken out they’re there to help you keep going.
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Get outside help – If you’re on a college campus there are health centers and therapists who can help you find the best way to cope with your sadness and with telling others. If you’re in high school then look to a teacher or counselor you really trust and have them help you figure out your best plan of action.
this was very helpful, thank you.