One of the most frustrating aspects of losing someone you love is the aftermath of having to try to explain to others what this feels like. Especially when you don’t even know how to explain it to yourself.
Recently, I came across my mom’s death anniversary and a few days before I already knew how my days would turn out. I would go into what Luke from Gilmore Girls would call a “dark day.”
To me this means that I wouldn’t really want to talk to anyone, except those already around me. I would give myself the time to reminisce and be sad and let the day happen.
Calling this day my “dark day” gave me the upper hand when explaining it to my friend. She’s a huge Gilmore Girls fan (I mean, who isn’t?), so as soon as I said “dark day” she completely understood. I didn’t have to delve into the why my mom’s death anniversary makes me want to have a “dark day” or what I did on my day.
She already understood all the implications because she watched the show. This made my life SO much easier because if I didn’t have the “dark day” phrase I honestly was at a lost on how to explain it effectively.
